Not all Peaches and Cream

This is something I feel is pretty important to know...
Not everything goes 100 smooth when re-activating/investigation/continuing in the church. The Church itself is perfect but people aren't...People make mistakes! It's part of being here, on Earth, to learn!
 The reason I have decided to bring this up is because of my darling husband, my brother and my FSIL. As I've posted before, My FSIL is investigating the church and my brother and husband have also decided to come back and prepare to receive the next Priesthood.
Part of that process involves meeting with our Bishop. None of us know our Bishop very well but me and my brother had his brother as one of our leaders when we were younger and his brother is good friends with our Mum and Dad.
So when we went in to meet with Bishop I don't think everybody was fully prepared for what was going to happen.
Chris and I went in together, being married and all, and we had our discussion, it started all ok, but then things didn't go as C had expected. He had expected a "you are forgiven, you can receive the Priesthood now." response. Which is not what we got. What we did get was "Ok, you've done the right thing by telling me, now we need to establish your spiritual habits to continue this process." Only the way it was delivered was alot harsher, I guess, and abrupt. The way it was delivered really upset my husband and he shutdown. I could feel his anger and I could feel everyword Bishop was saying deflect off C like it was nothing. I was so scared that C was just going to give it all up and revert to his comfortable ways. I also knew he wasn't truly sorry. (Which he confirmed when I asked him later.)
Me on the other hand, I was balling my eyes out uncontrollably. I was sorry, I am sorry, and I've been so scared of the day I would admit my transgression that I've been avoiding it like the plague. And I thought what was asked of either of us was extremely light to what I had expected. I don't agree with how it was realyed to both C and I but I do agree with the message and what it is that he was trying to tell us.
1. Pray together as a family (Family being me and C)
2. Read and study the scriptures together
3. Focus our attention on each other, helping and serving each other.
To me these things all seem pretty basic in the Gospel and I was fine with it.
But then things went a step further and he told C (didn't ask C) that he was going to get a "mentor" and that he would start Home Teaching. I straight away knew who I wanted as a "mentor" for C... TODD! (BTW, This discussion with Bishop happened a fortnight ago, so Todd talking to me happened yesterday...) But C was not comfortable with Home Teaching and he didn't understand why he needed a "mentor" when he had the missionaries.
Now having prayed hard for understanding on this I do not fault our Bishop, he is just a man doing his best.
C does not respond well to being "told" what to do. You don't "tell" C you "ask" C. Or you ease him into it, in his time. He has made many changes to accomodate the Gospel in the past 3 months to be told he was going to start Home-Teaching is mighty scary and imposing on him. He suffers from anxiety and does not do overly well in new situations, especially with new people. And when it was said in our discussion with Bishop taht C was to start Home-Teaching, I didn't feel quite right. But I'm putting that down to my protectiveness over my Husband. But the reality is that "whether by my own voice or the voice of my servants, it is the same" (D&C1:37-38ish I think...) So If Bishop has asked it of us, The Lord has asked it of us. So I think my next challenge is going to be explaining that to C, I will definately need the Missionaries help on that one... Anyway, bottom line is C came out of Bishop's office angry, frustrated, confused, annoyed and bitter. ALL the things I didn't want him to be.
After we came out, my brother and FSIL went in.
That night we all met at my Mum and Dad's place (Mum and Dad were at the hospital) with teh Missionaries. They were interested to know how everything went because they were excited about teh progress of everyone in our little group. And I felt so sorry for them when they got the answers.
My FSIL was heart-broken. She had been told that she couldn't get baptized untill they were married or if Leon slept in a different room. (Note: Due to medical reason he sleeps in teh same room as her, he is her carer and she NEEDS someone there at all times and her family live interstate.) This depressed her more than made her angry as she knew the Gospel was true. She had had an experience that very Sacrament Meeting that spoke so clearly to her that it was true, and she felt cut down so quickly afterwards, I felt horrible for her too. She was so sure about that she didn't want to waste anymore time, she wanted to be baptized.
My brother was Angry, much like C because he was also told that he could not receive the Priesthood [as yet]. ANd also because of what was said to his Fiance'
And then C shared his emotions with the Missionaries too.
Both my Brother and C said that they didn't see the point or know if it was worth it if this is what was going to happen. C actually said that he didn't see the point and was prepared to give up.
I sat there listening to it all, knowing that this was a make or break moment in 3 people's lives. And I prayed. I prayed hard for them all to soften thier hearts and I prayed hard that the Missionaries would know what to say. I felt so bad for teh Missionaries and when they responded, the empathsized, they explained, they understood... I felt so proud of them. They did the best they could and I know Heavenly Father helped them that night.
I said my piece that night aswell which was "Bishop is a man like us and he's not perfect. Communication may not be his strong point. I don't agree with how we were told but I do agree with what he's asked us to do."

Since that night I have talked to Bishop once, I was supposed to meet with him this past Sunday, as was C, but C was sick and I am caught up in Primary, so hopefully this week coming.
I know C is trying to avoid him and is considering going to our Stake President, as is my Brother and FSIL.

I guess what I'm trying to get across with this post, is that, no matter who you are, where you go or what you do, there will always be personality clashes, people you don't like, or can't get along with etc... The real test is if you let them beat you, or if you become the bigger person. When things get tough, running away doesn't solve it, and if anything is really worth it, it won't be a walk in the park. Where is the growth and development if it's all just handed to us on a silver platter? If it gets tough... push through... the silver lining will be visible on the other side.