A father is explaining to his son the importance of procreation. He explains that it is a special thing and that when you do it, you give a piece of yourself away. And that when your young you may not see it as emotional, just physical, but it is. It is a very emotional thing and it is a very deep connection. But this comment really struck me.
"Don't throw yourself around like you don't matter. Because you do. You matter."
This is something I did not expect from this show. Don't do it just because you can. Which is so true. So many times we turn on the TV, or the radio, or even just talking to our friends and it's totally acceptable. But it's not. We try to tell our kids and family that, but they don't want to listen because we are 'old' or we 'don't understand'... But how many of them are taught to look at it like this? I wasn't. I was basically told "Don't do it. End of story."
That's not enough, especially for youth, they are inquizitive and curious and testing, they will push the boundries just because they want to see how far they can go. Saying "no" just won't cut it. There has to be a deeper connection, and emotional grasp to it for them to believe it and live it. And I just thought this was great... Your self-worth is a factor. You matter more than an instants gratification. You are more important than satisfying someone's wants. Your amazing, wonderful, beautiful and a shining example of strength and character when you can be happy in who you are and not need to stop down to others and their expectations, or social acceptances. Afterall, it's living in the world not of it that seperates the mediocre from the great.
There is only one person out there who will prove they love you strong enough, acccept you, support you, build you up and walk alongside you that you should ever share this sacred and deeply life-changing act with. Your husband or wife. They have walked the hard yards with you, they have stuck by you, and if they are worth it they will respect you and not push you. They will understand your belief and if they are worth it, they will prove to you that they respect and support that decision. It's a cliche' but good things come to those who wait.
If anyone, and I mean ANYONE, tries to belittle someone's choice to abstain untill marriage... they, the tormentor, are the loser, and their comments or actions do not matter enough for us to worry over, be tormented by or give our freedom of choice too. It's a serious and very real issue, it takes much strength, courage and endurance, I totally understand that, but that's what makes it worth it. That's what makes it important and that's what counts. It proves that you matter. Because you do... each and every single one of you matter more than you'll ever know - don't let anyone diminish that.
Very well written. And its true, too many parents just say 'don't do it' which frankly in todays society is not going to cut it. If you won't explain yourself further kids go elsewhere for answers and the places they often get them is not where you want them to seek for answers.
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